Child abuse in Iranian schools Iranian schools have become torture sites for children, and in several European countries schools have also become places for child rape

 

1. First, valuing the child's feelings

#Child_abuse_in_Iranian_schools Iranian schools have become torture sites for children, and in several European countries schools have also become places for child rape

That is, before any questioning or analysis, the most important thing is for the child to feel that "you are on his side." Instead of asking "What did you do that he called you?", say:

"Darling, it's really bad that your teacher talked to you like that."

"You must have been scared or upset... Come on, tell me what happened."

✅At this stage, the child is not looking for judgment or analysis; he is looking for emotional refuge. If we rush to advice or questioning, he feels that no one understands him.

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2. Then, clarifying the truth (calmly and without interrogation)

When he has calmed down a bit, we can now calmly ask:

"Do you want to tell me exactly what he said or did?"

“What did you do at that time?”

“Was anyone else there?”

And….

Your goal here is not to find the culprit, not to judge the teacher, but to understand the situation.

⚜️“Because children may have different emotional perceptions from external reality.”

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3. If there was really violence or humiliation

If it turns out that the teacher really humiliated, yelled at, or hit the child, one should not remain silent. Because silence means for the child, “Even my mom and dad can’t protect me.”

✅✅✅But an effective reaction is not to take revenge on the teacher and fight.

It is better for the parent to go to the school and follow up in a serious and respectful tone. For example:

“My son says that something happened, and I am worried about his feelings. I want to know what happened from your perspective? And what is the reality? »

⚜️⚜️⚜️When the school understands that the parent is a respectful conversationalist, the teacher's behavior is much more likely to be corrected.

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4. If there was a misunderstanding

If, after investigating, we find that the child misunderstood (for example, the teacher spoke in a serious tone, he thought he was being scolded), we should not say "You were wrong, you thought he insulted you!"

Instead, we should say:

"I understand why you thought he was upset with you, because his voice was loud. But it seems he didn't mean to insult. Sometimes people raise their voices when they are stressed."

⚜️The goal here is to validate the child's feelings and to teach him social understanding.

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5. If violence is repeated

❌❌❌If the child repeatedly says insults or hits, the matter is more serious. The parent should both pursue legal action (e.g., filing a complaint with the education department) and work with the child at home on the concept of "rights":

"No one has the right to raise a hand against you, not even the teacher. If this happens again, come and tell me quickly."

This simple statement gives the child a sense of power and boundaries.